Make time. Make plans.

I hear it all the time. We never have time to be a couple. Never and always are two very strong words. Use them wisely. With football season just around the corner and school starting, I know our lives are going to step it up quite a few notches. Couple time is critical. For women, it makes us feel needed for something other than clean underwear or "what's for dinner?" I have heard my friends complain that their husbands never will plan a date. My suggestion, plan it yourself rather than feeling frustrated. A simple dinnerdate works wonders. An hour of talking, looking at each other and remembering things like your first date. Take a ride in the car. Just relaxing. Play nice Micheal Buble ( he's french) music. Roll the windows down and let your hair blow. Watch a movie together. Sit outside on the porch, deck and watch the sun go down. Allow time to let that first attraction of chemistry start flowing and remember how nice you were to each other when you started out. Maybe your husband hasn't been so nice or maybe you haven't been either? Stop whatever negative stuff and try the nice stuff again. I have learned that I am responsible for my actions regardless of what other people do. So....that means treating my husband the way I want to treated. So maybe your husband doesn't seem to have time for you, tell him you need him and you need just him. Explain exactly what you want, don't leave room for error, even it it doesn't happen, I always feel better if I have been honest with my husband. Most men need a clear understanding of what we need. Not too many details, just enough to get them started. Why not start first? Try making date with your man. Look him straight in the eyes, tell him you have been missing spending time with him. Tell him why you miss him. Tell him something mushy. Too embarrassed? Too mad he doesn't do it first? Just get over that stuff. Make time. Make the effort. Afterall, do you want a date or not? Time is wasting.