When you're tired of pitching your life in that black hole...let me know.

If someone you love is addicted to drugs, alcohol, shopping, gambling..whatever life controlling issue...let me explain the black hole theory. Until your loved one wants to change his/her life....until their current life is no longer working...until life becomes so unbearable that change is necessary...until your loved one gives up completely for transformation...you might as well be throwing pennies into a black hole. If you think for one minute that you can decide to reach back down into that hole and get your pennies back....well think again. They are gone. You see the addict does not have the ability to see what the problem is doing to themselves much less the people in their life. The disease controls their heart, mind, soul, eyes and ears. You cannot reason with, beg with, argue with, talk with, be with or even exist with the addict. I have stood outside that black hole. I have pitched my loose change into it, I have thrown my life savings into it, I have given my heart and every ounce of love left for my loved one...only to realize my pockets are empty. It is a process I must say. You cannot overnight decide to stop visiting the black hole. You have to come to that point much like the addict...when the pain of staying in the sickness of the relationship is greater than the feared changes or unknown outcome. This I do know..my God has plans for my life. He knew I would face the demon of addiction with my loved one. He knew, He knows, He cares, He is standing there beside me at the black hole....searching my face to see if I am ready to stop pitching my soul into that dark abscess. He offers a place to put my hurts and sorrows where the light can shine on them and make them less threatening and confusing. He will take whatever I throw Him and catch it with His unending love, mercy and grace. You see He knows what it means to throw your life into the darkest corner of the world...He died on the cross for sins and everyone else who asks to be forgiven. Today...my pockets are not empty. In fact, I haven't reached into them for quite some time. I have backed away from that deep, scary hole of trying to pull a loved out of the darkness. I am choosing to stand in the light beside my Saviour who has two hands waiting to take everything I give Him and give me more than I could ever imagine back. Peace.