What if?

I have many conversations with people throughout my day. Listening to heartaches and happiness. People just want to be loved and needed. A sales rep has found the love of his life. She loves to ride on his boat with him and enjoy his cabin on the lake. Someone is recently engaged and cannot imagine life without this person. Making an effort to please or adjust to one's needs. I hear of marriages that are great and marriages falling apart. I hear of happy moments and sad ones. Of a spouse's anger and another's forgiveness. Recently I had a conversation with someone who was questioning their upcoming marriage. Issues of who was giving more or less, going to church together, who's feelings were more important, and financial issues. While trying to listen and gather my thoughts at the same time, I became aware of the truth. What if none of these issues were resolved? Could this person accept the other if no changes were made? Why was there the need to feel confused if these issues could be discussed and a reasonable agreement made? Because it was known, deep inside, that gut feeling, that this person was not going to change. Opposites attract. I know and have read everywhere that you don't marry someone like yourself, it would be boring. Opposites but not oppositon. I offered no great advice or words to change the world, I just listened. If one's desire to love is greater than the need to be loved, if one's desire to need someone is greater than to be needed, then one will be left to choose. If one must choose to show one's love. Choosing to wonder if, what if?