How do you know you love him?

A dear friend of mine signed her divorce papers today. It was quick, sudden, final, and painful. Caught off guard by the sombernes of her apperance I knew that something, was. Shock from the simpleness and ease to lose the one she's been with for many years. Shocking to hear one's true feelings lost over time and she never even knew. I've read that resolutions to ending a relationship are a result of coming to the complete dissolving of emotional attachment, physical attachment, anger, hurt, or resentment. I saw on her face that she could not believe how completely over it really was. Quite possibly from his point only, not hers. We have friends who spend alot of time away from each other. Different plans. Different time off. Different needs. Just different. I do not have a perfect marriage, far from it. I have been hurt, angry and I have caused hurts and made my husband angry. What is different? I think there is a passion, a desire for us, each other, that could not be without Bo and me. I think it is knowing we were to meet, we were to be. Attracted with just one glance, a look, a wonder. I think it is knowing there were many others for both of us and we were uninterested until us. I think it is knowing we were a choice, not a detour. I think it was a awkwardness on that first date. Something I had never felt before. I think Bo wondered what life would be like without me and maybe the freedom wasn't worth what he would lose. I think I was a comfort to him that he had never known before. Warm, safe, and still exciting. Life does happen to people and they don't make it. One day I may be writing a story about my divorce; however, if we must wait until our feelings are resolved..... well....that will never happen.