When the hardest decision to make, has the most obvious answer.

This week has been very busy and demanding. My daughter is trying out for the varsity cheerleading squad and every night has been filled with practice. An unfortunate conflict arose. An opportunity to spend a weekend with friends and family, just girls, was chosen on this Friday, the very night my daughter tries out. I have thought about everyway possible to make this event happen for myself and my daughter. I have spent time and worry about making the right decision and with such a filled to the brim week, it has caused me a great deal of stress. As I pondered these things over with my daughter, I realized something. This weekend wasn't about her, it was more about me. It was quite a somber moment for me when I finally saw the answer to this difficult decision. The answer was....I am a mother this weekend, first. My daughter doesn't need to be worrying about leaving for a trip, packing, or anything else. She needs me to set her free. I did that. I made the right choice by saying, "No, we won't be there." Of course,it has hurt me that I have disappointed other people, but sometimes, one of the hardest jobs as a mother is staying focused on what is really important. I know the world will not come to an end if my daughter doesn't make the squad. I know she will be okay. I also want her to know, tommorrow afternoon, her mom will be waiting. No bags need to be packed. No agenda. No trip. I will wait to see what her agenda is. Afterall, she may really just need me and I need to be free to be her mom. No social event. Just her mom.