I would rather love than be right.

I don't always agree with our children or my spouse. I don't always want to hear another opinion than mine. Sometimes, I just want everyone to do what I want them to. I think our home is fortunate in that, our children do feel free to express their dislike or dismay with whatever they desire. I can always expect to hear their honest answer or response, whether I really want to or not. But, I think this is important. Children need to learn how to express their true feelings at home without shame, or blame. If young people are allowed to open up and share, there is less room for anger and resentment. If our children can't be real at home, where can they be? Regardless of what may have precipitated an argument, I try to teach love, OVER my power as a parent. So what does that mean? Even if a decision had to be made that our teenagers maybe did not agree with, I always tell them I love them and appreciate their opinion. I even actually listen and have changed my mind before, if possible. Many times, a teenager just wants to be validated by the parent taking into account their side and reasons. Being consistent and laying the ground rules for behaviour expectations will weed out opportunities that aren't what your child needs to be involved in. Regardless, I never with hold my love or communication with my teenagers. No matter how frustrated they are with me or how heated the battle may have gotten, my love for them will never be used for manipulation. My job as their mother is to teach "love conquers all things." We may not always agree, but our love for each other isn't an option or argument.